It’s easier to love what you can’t see.
Uwade, Nostalgia
The Minimalists posted a tweet that summarizes a concept I’ve been struggling with for the past few months now. The tweet simply said, “sometimes letting go of shoulds is more freeing than letting go of stuff.”
I don’t know the exact moment when I realized I was trying to live up to some idealized version of myself, but when I had that eureka moment, everything changed for me.
After I had my “aha” moment, I was able to notice that a lot of my suffering stemmed from the difficulty of letting go of who I thought I would be at this point in my life or, better yet, the ideal version I thought I wanted and needed to become to be socially accepted and successful.
We’re often encouraged to visualize our “dream-self”, which I think is a good thing, but sometimes it’s hard to differentiate the person we’re truly destined to become and the person society tells us we need to be.
Letting go is hard especially if what you’re trying to part with has accumulated history in your psyche.
I am continuously working on releasing my tight grip on the person I thought I’d be right now. The more I measure myself to some idealized version in my head, the more I take away time to fully live in the present.
I like where i’m at in life.
It’s good to continuously strive to improve ourselves, but I found that loving who you are in the now is just as important as aspiring for a better version.
With time, it will be easier to live without the need to craft some “perfect”version of ourselves to daydream about becoming because you’ll already be everything you’ve ever wanted and more.
What is something that is hard for you to let go? I would love to hear your answer in the comments!
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